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Beating Depression caused by Job Loss

February 7, 2008

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In the past, after loosing a job for whatever reason, it was easy to become down and out. It was also easy to point, find fault, make excuses, and place blame. We cannot forget the self pity neither. “What am I going to do? Why did this happen? I should have seen this coming!! How could I have been so ignorant as to quit a perfect job?” Just a few of the questions that have race through my mind in the past. I remember a line from a movie (sadly, I do not remember which one, maybe you can help) that said, “you’re not getting any answers because you are not asking the right questions.” That is such a true statement. Replace all the questions listed earlier with “What can I do today to improve my situation?” The results are sometimes dramatic. Here are some of the ways we fought getting depressed over job loss.

  1. Do not focus on the past. What you could have done, tried, said, or thought makes no difference now. Dwelling on these items will not take you any closer to making your life better. It is too time consuming to try to think of these things now when you will never have the opportunity to implement any of them.
  2. Forgive whomever is to blame. It may be a former boss, coworker, friend, family member, or even yourself. Let it go. Again, harboring feelings of anger, resentment, and doubt are not going to help you. Forgive the person/people at fault and give that baggage up.
  3. Make finding a job your new “full-time” job. If you spent forty hours a week at your old job, spend thirty-five hours a week looking for a new one. I am not talking about beating the pavement, but rather researching jobs you would like and companies you would like to work for. If you have never read “What Color Is Your Parachute?, I recommend it highly for those seeking a new job or a career change.
  4. Stay busy. Try not to let yourself have too much idle time. To much “empty” time will only allow room for negative thoughts. If you have done your research, placed applications or delivered your resume, then stay occupied with other things around the house. Try to find ways that you can network better, or do that project you have been putting off for what seems like decades. Just don’t become sedentary.
  5. Take action. Once you have decided on the route you are going to take, then take that route. All the plans, notes, and schedules in the world are useless unless you act upon them. Get a calendar and only place items on it that you know must be achieved that day.
  6. Have some fun. I know that this is a hard time to think about having fun, but there are ways to have a good time in a financially savvy way that does not require large amounts (if any) money. “A merry heart doth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.” Proverbs 17:22.

This is by no stretch of the imagination intended to be an all inclusive list on ways to fight depression caused by a job that has been lost; it is merely how we have tried to avoid the “woe is me” attitude that has befallen us in the past. I believe the main thing that helped us was to stay focused on the desired end result, and not the past experience. Keep looking at that “brass ring”, and on one of the trips around it will be yours.

Have you ever felt depression from a job loss, or are you gifted to be one of the always positive thinkers? How have you fought depression? We would love to know!